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Decision Fatigue

Decision Fatigue

What’s for dinner tonight? Can I go to my friends house on Friday?  What do I need to get from the grocery store? Who will take kids to activity on Wednesday evening when I’m working late? Do I want toast for breakfast? The number of decisions working parents make daily is overwhelming.  It’s no wonder we are mentally fatigued. Whilst the majority of focus is often placed on your physical energy, ensuring adequate sleep, food and exercise.  The mental energy you consume plays an equally important role in your daily thriving. There are 6 types of decision-making strategies: Quick – make an impulsive decision to get it done and you don’t need to think about it Easy Street – what decision will create the least amount of resistance from children or others Off load – delegating or passing the decision to a trusted person Head in sand – avoiding or ignoring the decision Weighing up –  balancing the various perspectives before making a decision. First things first – prioritising decisions that have the most impact. When it comes to parenting and working, addressing first things first enables you to create mental availability for children, relationship, work and time for yourself. The more we can focus on the the decisions with the most impact the better our productivity and daily quality of life.  Stephen Covey talks about this concept in his book, First Things First. He says for long term success, organise and execute around your most important priorities. It’s estimated, adults make an average of 35,000 decisions per day and children 3,000. A recent study by Cornell University estimates we...
‘Shoulding’ depletes your energy

‘Shoulding’ depletes your energy

There was a time when making dinner was something I had to do. It wasn’t a choice. I believed it was what a good mother and a good Indian wife ‘should’ do. I also believed I should do the dishes before relaxing in the evening. And some other ‘shoulds’ were, keeping my house tidy at all times and arranging social catch ups every weekend. A ‘should‘ is an unconscious rule we play in our mind of what we can and can’t do and what we should and shouldn’t do. It dominates where we place our focus, time and energy. As a working parent, shoulds can hold you back from spending time with those important to you, like your partner, because the chores need to be done. They can keep you spending precious hours on the weekend, cleaning your home before guests arrived so that it looks ‘presentable’.  They can mean you fill your weekends with social activity leaving little time to be present with children. None of these things are wrong in themselves, however when they are not a conscious choice and being done on autopilot, there is a strong possibility you may not prioritising what’s really, really important to you. As working parents, we are striving to operate in a smarter way. Auditing your list of shoulds can help release mental energy and help you focus your time and energy where it matters most. “You have to decided what your highest priorities are and have the courage – pleasantly-smilingly, non-apologetically, to say ‘no’ to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger ‘yes’...
Fear of Failure

Fear of Failure

I’ve just been asked to do a last minute national radio interview in the morning. My first time for live radio. It’s in my area of expertise and a topic I am comfortable with and have a strong opinion on. Even so, when I looked at the line up and the people I would be speaking with, there is an Innovation Expert and a person with multiple PHDs (at least that’s what I’m telling myself!)  and me. My inner voice had a few things to say, “What have I got to offer?” “What value to do I bring?” Then I pictured myself saying something stupid and screwing up. Only this time and for a long time now, I catch the inner voice, smile at those images and then replace them with better ones. ​​​​​​​“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new”, Albert Einstein As parents we do the best we can. There is no doubt we will screw up at some time or another. The question is what might you NOT do because you think you might screw up? It can be perceived as bad to have a fear of failure. It’s worse when you fear your fear of failure. By making fear of failure your friend, you get to hang out together and who knows, you may find yourself in new territory. I’ll be hanging out with my fear of failure tomorrow and giving something new a go. Join...
Your Choices, Your Life

Your Choices, Your Life

Could you be closing yourself off to aligning family and work without consciously knowing it? A few years ago I would never have imagined growing my business to where it is today and having the quality of time and relationship I have with my husband and children. I used to believe… I had to work relentlessly to grow my career I had to catch up with friends every weekend I had to make home cooked meals everyday I had to have an immaculate home I had to throw regular parties and dinners I had to volunteer for everything at my children’s school My children had to attend every party they were invited to ​​​​​​​My children had to do sport on the weekend And because everyone else around me was doing this, I believed this was the way it had to be. Today I believe.. I can expend less energy working with more impact I can have social free weekends to just hang with my family I can take shortcuts on meals (we have meal delivery service 3 days a week) The dishes can wait if it means I can have a longer cuddle with my boys I can throw parties when I feel like it and it’s a joy I can volunteer for the things I’m good at at my children’s school My children can attend parties of friends that they are close to My children do what interests them and that may or may not include sports on the weekend Confirmation bias theory suggests we have a tendency to search for, interpret and favour information in a way that confirms...
The No.1 Skill to Parent as a Leader

The No.1 Skill to Parent as a Leader

Whilst some see leadership as a role that heads up an organisation or a department, we as parents equally head up a family and a home – the main difference being we don’t get to leave our leadership role at home at the end of each day, like we can if it were our job outside of the home. There are various styles of leadership, each with different outcomes. The 19th century autocratic style of leadership was one of command and control, dominant in the industrial age to encourage employees to conform and mass produce.  The 20th century authoritarian style of leadership was about creating positive relationships whilst enforcing the rules and was the norm in the information age. As society has evolved so too has parenting and we are now at a major tipping point in parenting styles.   Today, in the 21st century, the age of disruption, the new model of parenting is a leadership parenting style and just like great leadership in organisations is about authenticity, it’s true at home, even more so.   So what then is authenticity and why is it so important in leading children? Authenticity is “representing one’s true nature or beliefs; true to oneself or to the person identified.”  It is when we are authentic, we are at our most creative.  In a report by the Foundation for Young Australians, research indicates that between 2012 and 2015 the demand for creativity in job advertisements increased by 65%. The no. 1 skill to develop authenticity is self awareness. If you find yourself at logger heads with your child, chances are there is something you can...