We know what a resilient child is supposed to do. Learn HOW they can actually do it?

We know what a resilient child is supposed to do. Learn HOW they can actually do it?

Resilience. Such an important trait to develop yet many parents find it difficult themselves before even considering how they are going to help their child to develop it. I shared some articles recently, on this very subject and wanted to focus a little bit more on some practical strategies to help you build resilience whether it is at work or within your personal relationships… How many times in life do we get knocked over; something happens with our health, in our relationship, at work? And we are also great at knocking ourselves over with our hurtful thoughts and sometimes, even actions like eating the wrong food or not getting enough sleep. The thing that allows us to pick up ourselves up and move forward is resilience. And that’s the topic for this month’s Parents Leading Change TV. I consider myself to be resilient. There can be times when I have dark thoughts, times when things get on top of me, times when I feel the rut I am stuck in is going to consume me, however I always have the underlying glimmer of hope that everything will be ok. I remind myself I can learn something during these times and I’ll come out of it even stronger and I always do. After going through a coaching program, I learnt how to add another layer of resilience that has made me feel strong and borderline invincible and I wanted to share with you, 3 key things I have learnt and also instil in my children. Because they are not commonly spoken about, mainly because most people are not aware of...
Encouraging Your Child to Give Genuine Thanks

Encouraging Your Child to Give Genuine Thanks

I don’t know about you but I get tired of repeating to my children, “say please” “say thank you” And when they do say it, their tone of voice is so perfunctory they may as well have not said it – does that sound familiar? ☺ So I set about discovering how I can support my children to express genuine gratitude and be genuinely polite. i.e. actually feel a sense of happiness. I made some interesting discoveries along the way and also realised how critical gratitude is as the root to our happiness. Everyone goes on and on about gratitude and gratitude journals but how can you adjust your thinking and how do you actually break it down into a daily practice that actually works and permeates through to your children?     The thing we love the most is hearing from our fabulous community. Some of the greatest insights come directly from you. Leave a comment...
Praising Your Child to Promote a Growth Mindset

Praising Your Child to Promote a Growth Mindset

As parents we worry about praise – are we praising enough? are we praising too much? what should we praise? This episode brings a different perspective on selecting how to praise your child and an empowering rule of thumb when praising, which every parent needs to know to promote a growth mindset in your child. Dr Michael Hall in a number of his books, identifies tip 3 in this video as one of the most fundamental foundations to people leading authentic and successful lives. The thing we love the most is hearing from our fabulous community. Some of the greatest insights come directly from you. Leave a comment below....
Getting Your Strong-Willed Child To Listen More

Getting Your Strong-Willed Child To Listen More

Do you find yourself repeating instructions over and over again? Do you find that your child is just not that bothered about praise? Do you find your child is quite sensitive to your instructions and a certain tone can result in tears?  This can be stressful for both you and your child. This episode explains what may be going on and how you can change it….     For more information on how to change your language to help your child to listen more, here’s some great tips from our friends at Unleash Your Potential   The thing we love the most at Hoogi is hearing from our fabulous community of women. Some of the greatest insights come directly from you. Jump onto our facebook page to join the conversation about the video this month. Thank you in advance for sharing with us – your tip might be able to create huge change in someone else’s life With love and fun, Dina and the Hoogi...
Teaching Kids About Love

Teaching Kids About Love

  Do you ever think about how to create little Valentines out of your children? What is it that will allow them to create a thriving loving relationship that enables them to go the very depths of their being and be vulnerable enough to share that with another person? After being divorced and remarried, there was one thing that I wanted more than anything else – I wanted my children to be born into a happy marriage. A marriage where parents could communicate, problems were dealt with, love was displayed openly and comfortably and there was chemistry between the parents!  I feel so grateful to have these things with my husband today. When my husband and I first got married, I didn’t fully comprehend how much our behaviour and actions would influence our children. I understand that now and over time I also realised that it was my relationship-based decisions that enabled my current relationships to be happy and more importantly, set my children up to experience similar happy relationships. My work as a coach has allowed me to connect with many mums so they too have a better understanding when it comes to the degree of influence a parent’s behaviour can have on their children.  I have coached countless mums who have changed their own behaviour and gone on to influence their husband or partner to adjust their behavior, which has had a remarkable effect on the children. As an example, Kate* and her husband would continuously argue about discipline until they got so frustrated with each other, one of them would walk away and the conflict would not...

The Ultimate Christmas Gift For Your Child

I’ve been sitting here thinking about what I can share with you at this time of year as we approach Christmas. What could I share with you that would be so important that in your heart of hearts you will already know it?  What is it that I need to remind you of at this crazy time of year? Now I know what I need to share with you and it is about the gift of our fun spirit as parents. Our fun spirit which is supposed to be so alive at this time of year can be squashed under the weight of pre-Christmas organisation. There are parties to go to or organise, end of school year events, holiday organisation, shopping, present buying, cooking…  The list goes on. The good news is that even if you can’t see or feel your spirit of fun, your child can. When your children look up at you, they see it.  When they come running to you at school pick up time on the last school day of the year, they see it. Your child sees through your busyness and all the holiday preparations, straight through to the heart of you – the true essence of you. She sees the fun parent inside.  Yes, she’s still there underneath it all. When you see yourself through your child’s eyes you will rediscover yourself and remember that fun is an essential part of life.  It’s an especially important part of your child’s life and you have the chance to share in it. Some of you already know how to show your fun side, while others are...