How to encourage your child to make mistakes

How to encourage your child to make mistakes

Do you celebrate mistakes? My son was washing the blender after making a smoothie. It’s an awkward shape and the sink was full of dishes, so as he went to flip it to rinse it he accidentally poured a quarter of a jug of dirty water all over the clean dishes on the rack, trickling down and inside the cupboard and all over the floor. He looked up at me, searching for my reaction. My initial thoughts were, I have not got time to clean this up. I need to respond to client before we leave for an activity. As  I was about to yell something, I took 5 seconds to pause. In those 5 seconds I gave myself the choice in how I wanted to respond. Choosing our response is one of the most important skills we can learn as parents because a child creates meaning based on how we respond. My son replied, “oh snap!” and started cleaning it up and I began to help him by which time I had calmed myself down enough to say, “awesome buddy, what are you realising about rinsing out that big jug if the sink is full?” In the future of work, being able to make mistakes and celebrating them is a critical skill for mental resilience. Why? When we are sharing our creativity and our uniqueness, chances are it’s not going to come out perfectly on first go, probably not even on the 100th go, but each time your experiment fails, you learn something and have that knowledge for next time. Thomas Edison invented the light bulb. He said,...
3 components of healthy self-belief for a child

3 components of healthy self-belief for a child

Central to the skills children require for the future of work is self-belief. A child who believes in themselves, believes in their ability and their capability to ride challenges and celebrate progress are in good stead for the future. Self-belief is different from having an exaggerated self-opinion. An exaggerated self-opinion, or arrogance, is often seen and received as bragging and results in disconnection from others. Self-belief on the other hand, is seen and received by others as inspiring and results in connection with others. Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right! Henry Ford A belief is an acceptance that something is true, whether or not empirical evidence is available. Children can believe they are capable, they can believe they are incapable, they can believe they are at the mercy of others, they can believe and back themselves. Beliefs colour the way they view the world. There are three components to a child’s healthy self-belief: They believe they are more than what they achieve They believe they can handle reality They believe that they have choices no matter the circumstance When a child believes they are more than what they achieve, they are less likely to want to strive for achievement for achievements’ sake and they move towards achieving for fulfilment and how they can help others. If a child believes they have internal resources to deal with situation and events, especially when they are less than ideal, they are quicker to accept and adapt and look for solutions to their problems. When a child believes they have the power to choose how they respond...
Book endorsement by Dr John Demartini

Book endorsement by Dr John Demartini

Two months ago, I had one of worst months of my life. I went into hospital for a routine surgery, which resulted in a life threatening complication. That same week, my son broke his arm. A week later I lost my cousin to cancer. A week after that my son went into hospital with a severe asthma attack and then shortly after that I found out a colleague had taken her life. It was intense. During this same period, I committed to writing my book. Have you ever had times, when something is just meant to happen and everything conspires to make it happen? Well that’s what happened. I found my editor, my writing flowed. I met every deadline. And after 8 weeks of intense writing, often through the night, this book came to form: Smart Parenting – How to Develop Your Child’s Mindset, Resilience and Courage for the Future of Work It didn’t stop there, the main cover was designed in one round, the printers were helpful, I learnt about barcodes and ISBNs and proofreaders all when I needed to. Then one day during the school holidays (yes, it was school holidays during this period too) my mastermind buddies mentioned Dr John Demartini. They said he often comes to town and to check him out. It just so happened he was in town a week later. I booked two tickets and together with my husband, we went to see him. For the whole session, it was like someone had crawled into my head and understood what I had been trying to say for years, but not been able...
Self-belief is a critical ingredient for the future of work

Self-belief is a critical ingredient for the future of work

For years, thirty-five years to be precise, I carried around beliefs about myself that simply weren’t true. I’m not intelligent enough, I’m not unique or different, I’m not special in any way. They weren’t true. We are all intelligent, we are all unique and different and we are all special in our own way. But in the word’s of Albert Einstein, ‘Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.’ What does self-belief have to do with the future of work? The future of work holds many unknowns – how will Artificial Intelligence (AI) disrupt industries? What will the ‘gig economy’ do to employment? How will flash teams affect the way we work? One thing is certain, no amount of technology will replace who we are as humans. Our energy, our ability to connect, our ability to create and generate new ideas – technology can enhance each of these areas, however it cannot replace them. In a report by the Foundation for Young Australians, research indicated jobs of the future will demand 70% more enterprise skills than jobs of the past. Enterprise skills are transferable skills and include creativity, problem solving, communication, teamwork and critical thinking among others. The research looked at job advertisements between 2012 and 2015 and measured the growth in the proportion of jobs requiring these enterprise skills early on in a career. In particular, they found the demand for creativity increased by 65% over this time period. We all have a genius. An area of creativity....
The future of work for our children

The future of work for our children

There are three things deeply concerning me today. 1) The pressure on parents and children 2) The impact this pressure has on the mental thriving of both parent and child 3) The link between mental thriving and the future of work Everywhere we turn as parents, there is a demand on our time and energy. We are working really hard, ensuring every minute of every day is used efficiently and that somewhere in all the busyness of daily life there’s space for quality family time. Only the reality looks more like rushing to school, speeding up conversations with your child so you can get them in the car, remembering their drinks bottle left on the kitchen bench, whilst asking yourself if you’re going to make the morning stand-up meeting with your team at 9.30am. In the background, your mind is processing your daily activities continuously (mental load), usually with no breaks. And without deliberate action there’s really no stopping it. Research tells us we lose at least nine hours a week to family related mental load. That’s more than one working day a week. And it’s hurting us…. Imagine putting a load of ingredients into a blender and leaving it on all day, everyday. The motor would burn out pretty quickly and the lid would eventually fly off and contents explode. That’s what happening to us as a nation of parents. I speak to mum after mum, drowning under the constant never ending pressure. And it’s got to stop. Because it’s hampering our ability to be present with our child and our ability to be deliberate in the beliefs...