Fear of Failure

As parents we do the best we can. There is no doubt we will screw up at some time or another. The question is what do you say to yourself when you think you might screw up and how much airtime do you give it?

Your Choices, Your Life

Could you be closing yourself off to aligning family and work without consciously knowing it? A few years ago I would never have imagined growing my business to where it is today and having the quality of time and relationship I have with my husband and children. I used to believe… I had to work relentlessly to grow my career I had to catch up with friends every weekend I had to make home cooked meals everyday I had to have an immaculate home I had to throw regular parties and dinners I had to volunteer for everything at my children’s school My children had to attend every party they were invited to ​​​​​​​My children had to do sport on the weekend And because everyone else around me was doing this, I believed this was the way it had to be. Today I believe.. I can expend less energy working with more impact I can have social free weekends to just hang with my family I can take shortcuts on meals (we have meal delivery service 3 days a week) The dishes can wait if it means I can have a longer cuddle with my boys I can throw parties when I feel like it and it’s a joy I can volunteer for the things I’m good at at my children’s school My children can attend parties of friends that they are close to My children do what interests them and that may or may not include sports on the weekend Confirmation bias theory suggests we have a tendency to search for, interpret and favour information in a way that confirms...

The No.1 Skill to Parent as a Leader

Whilst some see leadership as a role that heads up an organisation or a department, we as parents equally head up a family and a home – the main difference being we don’t get to leave our leadership role at home at the end of each day, like we can if it were our job outside of the home. There are various styles of leadership, each with different outcomes. The 19th century autocratic style of leadership was one of command and control, dominant in the industrial age to encourage employees to conform and mass produce.  The 20th century authoritarian style of leadership was about creating positive relationships whilst enforcing the rules and was the norm in the information age. As society has evolved so too has parenting and we are now at a major tipping point in parenting styles.   Today, in the 21st century, the age of disruption, the new model of parenting is a leadership parenting style and just like great leadership in organisations is about authenticity, it’s true at home, even more so.   So what then is authenticity and why is it so important in leading children? Authenticity is “representing one’s true nature or beliefs; true to oneself or to the person identified.”  It is when we are authentic, we are at our most creative.  In a report by the Foundation for Young Australians, research indicates that between 2012 and 2015 the demand for creativity in job advertisements increased by 65%. The no. 1 skill to develop authenticity is self awareness. If you find yourself at logger heads with your child, chances are there is something you can...

Parenting as a Leader

It’s odd to think about parenting as a leadership role and yet anthropologically speaking they are the same.   A leader is… Someone who has followers Has the capacity to translate vision into reality Empowers others And is influentional   A parent is… Someone who has followers (children) Has the capacity to translate vision (of family) into reality Empowers their child Influences their child   If you were a leader in corporate for a moment and not a parent, you would have access to leadership assessments, benchmarks for best practice, leadership development and you would know your leadership style. And yet when it comes to parenting, we find ourselves winging it, eventually settling for a rhythm that works, often over what is best. With good reason..working parents are overwhelmed, inundated from every possible angle and somehow trying to make it all work. With many households commonly needing both parents to be working to cover the costs of a home and raising a family, they find themselves out of the home for long periods of time. If not managed this results in work getting the best of you and family getting what’s left. With working and parenting appearing as they are at odds, we can look to leadership for answers. The best leaders have learnt how to manage the overwhelm of demands placed on them whilst still connecting, empowering and influencing their followers. So what can as working parents learn from great leaders? What I’ve experienced in my own parenting and what we’ve found with our clients is, it’s about developing authenticity.   Parent as Leader Scale      ...

You are not failing

Do you feel that if you can’t make work and family work that you are not trying hard enough or somehow you not good enough? You are not failing. 

3 Common Fears In Parenting

Even if you are fairly level-headed person, it’s common to experience an increase in the number of fears you have after having children.

6 reasons to stop comparing in parenting

Parenting can be a competitive arena. Whether it’s the type of activity a child is doing or where you are going for your winter break, some comparisons are overt and others are more subtle. Read more..

Flexibility for working parents is a mindset before a reality

For working parents, flexibility is the most valuable currency there is. Being able to pick up your child from school a couple of times a week, attend a child’s concert, take them to an activity, be home with them for dinner, these are important and it’s flexibility that enables these moments to occur.

How to encourage your child to make mistakes

In the future of work, being able to make mistakes and celebrating them is a critical skill for mental resilience.
When we are sharing our creativity and our uniqueness, chances are it’s not going to come out perfectly on first go, probably not even on the 100th go…

Do you dress your child to impress?

We want children to walk their own path. We want them to not compare themselves to others. But I’m wondering if what we say to them sometimes gives them a different message. Why are we judged on appearance? And what can we teach our children instead?

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