Fear of Failure

Fear of Failure

I’ve just been asked to do a last minute national radio interview in the morning. My first time for live radio. It’s in my area of expertise and a topic I am comfortable with and have a strong opinion on. Even so, when I looked at the line up and the people I would be speaking with, there is an Innovation Expert and a person with multiple PHDs (at least that’s what I’m telling myself!)  and me. My inner voice had a few things to say, “What have I got to offer?” “What value to do I bring?” Then I pictured myself saying something stupid and screwing up. Only this time and for a long time now, I catch the inner voice, smile at those images and then replace them with better ones. ​​​​​​​“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new”, Albert Einstein As parents we do the best we can. There is no doubt we will screw up at some time or another. The question is what might you NOT do because you think you might screw up? It can be perceived as bad to have a fear of failure. It’s worse when you fear your fear of failure. By making fear of failure your friend, you get to hang out together and who knows, you may find yourself in new territory. I’ll be hanging out with my fear of failure tomorrow and giving something new a go. Join...
Your Choices, Your Life

Your Choices, Your Life

Could you be closing yourself off to aligning family and work without consciously knowing it? A few years ago I would never have imagined growing my business to where it is today and having the quality of time and relationship I have with my husband and children. I used to believe… I had to work relentlessly to grow my career I had to catch up with friends every weekend I had to make home cooked meals everyday I had to have an immaculate home I had to throw regular parties and dinners I had to volunteer for everything at my children’s school My children had to attend every party they were invited to ​​​​​​​My children had to do sport on the weekend And because everyone else around me was doing this, I believed this was the way it had to be. Today I believe.. I can expend less energy working with more impact I can have social free weekends to just hang with my family I can take shortcuts on meals (we have meal delivery service 3 days a week) The dishes can wait if it means I can have a longer cuddle with my boys I can throw parties when I feel like it and it’s a joy I can volunteer for the things I’m good at at my children’s school My children can attend parties of friends that they are close to My children do what interests them and that may or may not include sports on the weekend Confirmation bias theory suggests we have a tendency to search for, interpret and favour information in a way that confirms...
The No.1 Skill to Parent as a Leader

The No.1 Skill to Parent as a Leader

Whilst some see leadership as a role that heads up an organisation or a department, we as parents equally head up a family and a home – the main difference being we don’t get to leave our leadership role at home at the end of each day, like we can if it were our job outside of the home. There are various styles of leadership, each with different outcomes. The 19th century autocratic style of leadership was one of command and control, dominant in the industrial age to encourage employees to conform and mass produce.  The 20th century authoritarian style of leadership was about creating positive relationships whilst enforcing the rules and was the norm in the information age. As society has evolved so too has parenting and we are now at a major tipping point in parenting styles.   Today, in the 21st century, the age of disruption, the new model of parenting is a leadership parenting style and just like great leadership in organisations is about authenticity, it’s true at home, even more so.   So what then is authenticity and why is it so important in leading children? Authenticity is “representing one’s true nature or beliefs; true to oneself or to the person identified.”  It is when we are authentic, we are at our most creative.  In a report by the Foundation for Young Australians, research indicates that between 2012 and 2015 the demand for creativity in job advertisements increased by 65%. The no. 1 skill to develop authenticity is self awareness. If you find yourself at logger heads with your child, chances are there is something you can...
Parenting as a Leader

Parenting as a Leader

It’s odd to think about parenting as a leadership role and yet anthropologically speaking they are the same.   A leader is… Someone who has followers Has the capacity to translate vision into reality Empowers others And is influentional   A parent is… Someone who has followers (children) Has the capacity to translate vision (of family) into reality Empowers their child Influences their child   If you were a leader in corporate for a moment and not a parent, you would have access to leadership assessments, benchmarks for best practice, leadership development and you would know your leadership style. And yet when it comes to parenting, we find ourselves winging it, eventually settling for a rhythm that works, often over what is best. With good reason..working parents are overwhelmed, inundated from every possible angle and somehow trying to make it all work. With many households commonly needing both parents to be working to cover the costs of a home and raising a family, they find themselves out of the home for long periods of time. If not managed this results in work getting the best of you and family getting what’s left. With working and parenting appearing as they are at odds, we can look to leadership for answers. The best leaders have learnt how to manage the overwhelm of demands placed on them whilst still connecting, empowering and influencing their followers. So what can as working parents learn from great leaders? What I’ve experienced in my own parenting and what we’ve found with our clients is, it’s about developing authenticity.   Parent as Leader Scale      ...
You are not failing

You are not failing

Do you feel that if you can’t make work and family work that you are not trying hard enough or somehow you are not good enough? You are not failing. I believe you’ve been set up to fail. The question I get asked the most by working parents is how can we do it all and do it well? Firstly, let’s define ALL – happy well rounded kids, loving connected relationship with hot dates (sometimes!), successful career, creating an impact, healthy body, 8 hours of sleep, good nutrition and regular exercise, building wealth, adventure, lifestyle, regular catch ups with friends, holidays, daily mindfulness practice, walks in nature, time with extended family and cousins and [insert your meaning here].   With housing priced as high as it is, it is quite likely that both parents need to work to pay for home and children and often spend long periods of time away from the home.  Flexibility, most often means working from home a day or 2 a week or going in early to come home early. Flexibility doesn’t accommodate reduced hours – it usually means work after kids have gone to bed and often being available out of hours and around the clock. So if work commands most of the time and we spend the little time left with family, what is happening to our lives? The impact we are seeing is an increase in stressed out and anxious parents and a rising number of mental health issues in our children. The latest statistics by Resilience Youth Australia, surveying 240,000 students age 8 to 18 reveals, that 40% or almost 1 in 2...
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